At the beginning of episode two of the new TV series, Terminator: The Sarah Connor Chronicles, Sarah says in a voice-over to the TV audience:

“Maybe if you spend your life hiding who you are, you might finally end up fooling yourself.”

I felt like she was speaking to me (and anyone else who can relate to invisibility). With that one statement, she captured the essence of being invisible – fooling others about who we really are and, ultimately, fooling ourselves to the point of believing the deception.

Invisibility is not about maliciously lying to hurt others, but it is about creating deception for the perceived benefit of survival, conflict avoidance, or other anxiety-avoiding reasons. Eventually, though, we hurt ourselves the most and leave a string of casualties behind us in the form of abandoned relationships and lost opportunities.

Sarah Connor represents the strength and conviction that’s needed to be visible to ourselves and to others. My new friend, Dani Rukin, a lightening-bolt of a life coach, beautifully captures the value of living visibly with this Marianne Williamson quote she shares on her web site:

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, “Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous?” Actually, who are you not to be?”

Terminate your invisibility by seeing the “…brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous…” you that was meant to live fully in the world. Embrace your power.

Consider the following:

• How will you terminate your invisibility (or how will you make yourself more visible)?
• Imagine living visibly. What becomes possible in your life?
• What are you missing out on by living invisibly (or not living in a fully visible way)?

www.invisiblelives.com

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